Quollection 38

If you want something you've never had, be prepared to do something you've never done.

Have the courage to  ask the questions.

Have the brains to ask the right questions.

Nothing is more erotic than a good conversation.

You not believing in yourself is a tragedy.

Stop that shit.

You are powerful beyond measure.

Everybody wants to see you do well. Just not better than them.

Everybody likes you. Until you become the competition.

Know your own worth - nobody's opinion validates who you are. Happiness is a choice and your playing small does not serve the world. So stand straight, stand proud for what you believe in, stand for your dreams, Being proud does not make you vain - there is nothing wrong is acknowledging your accomplishments and celebrating them with self love. It's important to know what you want. Voice that, and own up to the consequences.

Let's try something new this year. Conquer a great fear. Change a habit or start a new one. Meet some people or let go of others. Remember, your life is a story in progress and you're the author. Make it a good one.

Excerpt

You know you've read a good book when you turn the last page and it feels a little as if you have lost a dear friend. And you've hungry to read more but cannot bring yourself to start a new story for fear of disappointment that no following book will be anywhere near as good as the one you've just finished.

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15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy

 

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:

1. Give up your need to always be right

 There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control

Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

3. Give up on blame

 Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk

 Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.

“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle

5. Give up your limiting beliefs

about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!

“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle

6. Give up complaining

 Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. Give up the luxury of criticism

Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. Give up your need to impress others

Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. Give up your resistance to change

 Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell

10. Give up labels

 Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer

11. Give up on your fears

Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. Give up your excuses

Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. Give up the past

I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. Give up attachment

This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations

Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves.  You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

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Our Deepest Fear 

 

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

by Marianne Williamson from A Return To Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles

Quollection 37

"Be the better person", he said. So I have to try, I guess.

I wanted to see him so bad that I didn't even dare imagine him anymore.

I know who not to take social lessons from. Because I cannot count my friends, while you can. Pitty. 

... "DON'T RUSH" dat de mana, in rosu, pe spatele unui garaj.  

Campii de salvie la Suncuius, langa livada de struguri. Atat. 

I promised myself I would not die again.  

Sometimes I feel like I'm being in so many directions I don't know which way to turn to. (Merlin)

You must learn to listen as well as you fight.  (Merlin)

 Im usually a hyper happy girl. So when I break down, dont fking try to cheer me up. If that wouldve worked, I wouldve done it myself. 

“The loneliest people are the kindest. The saddest people smile the brightest. The most damaged people are the wisest. All because they do not wish to see anyone else suffer the way they do.”

Most people want a magical solution to all their problems. Problem is they don't believe in magic.

Just because you can't do it today doesn't mean you won't be able to do it someday. Never. Give. Up.

"Where would any of us be, Merlin, if no one ever gave us a chance?" (Arthur)

 "Try to learn to breathe deeply, really to taste food when you eat, and when you sleep, really to sleep. Try as much as possible to be wholly alive with all your might, and when you laugh, laugh like hell. And when you get angry, get good and angry. Try to be alive. You will be dead soon enough. " — Ernest Hemingway

Fall seven times; stand up eight. Then ride a Dragon.

We are all mirror images of each other. What you don’t like in me, you see in yourself.

De poţi risca pe-o carte întreaga ta avere
Şi tot ce-ai strâns o viaţă să pierzi într-un minut
Şi-atunci, fără a scoate o vorbă de durere,
Să-ncepi agoniseala, cu calm, de la-nceput.

“Am I a good person? Deep down, do I even really want to be a good person, or do I only want to seem like a good person so that people (including myself) will approve of me? Is there a difference? How do I ever actually know whether I’m bullshitting myself, morally speaking?” — "Consider the Lobster and Other Essays" by David Foster Wallace

     

Quollection 36

We don't know how to be together, but we can't be apart.

By morning it just looks like two years of total freedom and independency. It wasnt all bad; I learned a different fighting style. 

I dont need all the fingers on one hand to count the number of people I trully care about. <3 nbsp="nbsp" p="p">

Making peace with yourself is part of growing up. 

You know what sucks big hairy balls? Jealousy.  

Don't prematurely compartmentalize me.

Eu va iubesc si cand va certati si cand va impacati. Nu vroiam sa fiu dependenta de voi, dar ma bucur ca sunt <3 nbsp="nbsp" p="p">

Facebook doesnt know shit. Twitter and Youtube suspect a thing or two. Tumblr was there, but it's a really good secret keeper. 

Paaaaatience, grasshopper. Things do get better. Or you get used to them.

Riding the train with the perfect soundtrack in your ears is an art.  

"I'mma put your head through a wall, any wall, you can even pick the wall but it's gonna be a wall. Okay?" ~ Luke Danes

Ideally, I want a job where I can sport Converse shoes and blue hair :) 

I think it's better to refuse a job than to be refused for a job. 

^-^ Iubesc oamenii care, cu un cuvant si un zambet, ti-au castigat ziua.

When was the last time you did something for the first time? 

Probleme existentiale cauzate de juxtapunere temporala, insuficienta financiara si absenta duplicatului genetic

"Please, make peace with your wits. It's not going to go away, Buddy."  

You're a happy combination between a piece of furniture and a pet. ILY. 

Wish it were dark, cold and silent, wish I were at the edge of a lake and wish I were having a smoke. Feels like tranquility or sumthin.  

We've spent more time together than we did apart. I don't know how to live without you...

 Sometimes I legitimately forget how old I am, so I subtract my birth year from the current year. I can never connect with the final number. 

Don't treat mishaps like sinking ships.  

I'm not afarid to hurt your feelings.

Never ever forget to follow your goals and dreams just to match up with someone else's acheivements.

Everything you say and everything you do should be based on the knowledge of the sheer fact that it's gonna be a memory imprinted in your storybook for the rest of your life. Make it a good story .

When you think I'll zig, I'll zag. Then when you think I'm gonna zag, I do zag, just to mess you up for the next time, when I might zig.

I'm Ace. You're Ice. We fit. 

Excerpt

It’s this weird “nice girl” complex.

I’m meant to be flexible and fun and easy going and adaptable and generous and giving. ALL THE TIME RIGHT?! Even if it means I am run down and exhausted and completely out of energy to keep giving and people are stepping all over me.

It’s bullshit. And it leaves me forever feeling guilty about working towards something I want, because I feel like I’m not meant to want anything. Because it’s not nice to want things, because it detracts time and energy from giving!

And even when I do awesome things I play down all my achievements and my ambition anyway, and I never take credit for it.

Even though I have put in a damn lot of hard work to get where I am!

Sigh. Stupid personality. Honestly, my brain works in the stupidest ways.

First step is admitting it right?

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