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(...)

We are that kind of people who don't talk every day because they don't need frequency to justify the strength of their friendship. We are that kind of people who don't need explanations to understand each other. You're shit at wording your ideas, I'm awesome at reading between the lines. I'm shit at picking myself off the ground, you're awesome at kicking my butt back into gear.

I don't take you for granted.

Nor do I feel that I have to work for this. I just feel grateful that it exists and I had the balls to tell you and you had the decency to take me seriously, even though I might have come off as a weirdo at that time. Well, I am one, but so are you.

(...)

You once said I know so much about you. I know I now know a little less than I could've, but the lot that I do know I've actively searched to know it. And even now I call tell when you have something to share and I only have to ask the right questions. You're predictable in that aspect.

I'm digressing. Don't matter.

What I'm trying to say is ... I trust you. There is honestly nothing we could gain by using this friendship, which is exactly why it still stay strong and tall. It is based on honest and mutual trust, not on gains and expectations, there's nothing to be won and nothing that could be used.

(...)

Almost 4 years have passed and although we've spent together a grand total of just a few weeks, we're tighter than a pair of desk-mates will ever be. And that's something special.

x

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10.03.2013

ShinigamiKid: azi i'm testing new things, getting back to freelancing. Am un an de exercitiu de recuperat

Reen: parca ar fii o seara de vara, eu lecturez, tu html-zi... Ca si cum am avea timp...

ShinigamiKid: avem. Suntem prea depresivi sa realizam asta, prinsi in tot rahatul maturitatii. Refuz sa ma las prins in hora

Reen: no, Peter, we'll never grow up, never grow old, we'll never change, we're the boys of neverlaaaaaand

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You know you've read a good book when you turn the last page and it feels a little as if you have lost a dear friend. And you've hungry to read more but cannot bring yourself to start a new story for fear of disappointment that no following book will be anywhere near as good as the one you've just finished.

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15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy

 

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:

1. Give up your need to always be right

 There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control

Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

3. Give up on blame

 Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk

 Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.

“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle

5. Give up your limiting beliefs

about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!

“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle

6. Give up complaining

 Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. Give up the luxury of criticism

Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. Give up your need to impress others

Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. Give up your resistance to change

 Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell

10. Give up labels

 Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer

11. Give up on your fears

Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. Give up your excuses

Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. Give up the past

I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. Give up attachment

This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations

Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves.  You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

http://skdesigns.com/internet/articles/quotes/williamson/our_deepest_fear/

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Our Deepest Fear 

 

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

by Marianne Williamson from A Return To Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles

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It’s this weird “nice girl” complex.

I’m meant to be flexible and fun and easy going and adaptable and generous and giving. ALL THE TIME RIGHT?! Even if it means I am run down and exhausted and completely out of energy to keep giving and people are stepping all over me.

It’s bullshit. And it leaves me forever feeling guilty about working towards something I want, because I feel like I’m not meant to want anything. Because it’s not nice to want things, because it detracts time and energy from giving!

And even when I do awesome things I play down all my achievements and my ambition anyway, and I never take credit for it.

Even though I have put in a damn lot of hard work to get where I am!

Sigh. Stupid personality. Honestly, my brain works in the stupidest ways.

First step is admitting it right?

Sallygetsitdone

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"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world, there is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

Williamson, Marianne (1996) "A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles"

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you've got the power to break humans in half. with your sense and your nonsense. with your humor and your seriousness. with your outside and your inside. and i know this, because you haven't been hiding it well enough. i know this because i allowed myself to become selectively permeable, like the cells that make up you and me and the space in between. with a lightening crack i split in two. but still, you are blind. when will you realize that even your powers can get out of hand, too?

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Just a famous boy and a girl, they bonded over memories of what it was like to really have a soul. Opposite sides of the tracks, same suburbs. Strangers turned friends then friends turned lovers. And he scared her a little bit, never really did understand her fear of the intimate. But she scared him more, he’d been searching for so long and was afraid that he had finally found what he was looking for. She wasn’t sure at first, but she’s learned that when you play with fire, you might get burned. But somewhere between the cigarettes and late night TV, she found a reason to believe in what might be.
It’s like blue-eyed thinker seeks shelter from the storm, clever blonde likes to stay awake to the break of dawn. Just a mother’s son and a father’s daughter, trying to build a paradise within a life of disorder. And it got deep, he was living for a couple of minutes when he could still taste her lips on his.
Ain’t it funny how time flies? A few months can feel like a lifetime. So caught up in life, you don’t even realize. Complacency’s taken it’s toll, now everyday they stand watching the flame grow cold. They never fight. Too afraid of what might get said. Instead, the silence. Screaming for help under her breath. Sharing a cold bed and some silent nights.
And then the day arrives, “I don’t really know how to say this but,” Smiles on surface, but on the inside his world turned black. Reasons running through his mind. And if he could, then he’d take it all back. He can’t sleep. He stays awake with dreams of better days when he wrote her love letters. Business as usual. Her coping mechanism? That other still find her beautiful.
And as the seconds turn minutes, turn days, turn weeks, lovers revert to strangers. They don’t even speak. The king of the blues, the queen of the streets. Now their kingdom lies in ruins, break-up songs on repeat.
Now he misses her touch, and the sound of her voice. Everyday he wakes up, wishing she made a different choice. Co-authors in the story of each chapter written, but you’ve got to wonder… is it really finished?

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The Paradox of Our Age

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings, but shorter tempers; wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less; we buy more, but enjoy it less.
We have bigger houses and smaller families; more conveniences, but less time. More degrees, but less sense; more knowledge, but less judgment; more experts, but more problems; more medicine, but less wellness.
We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get angry too quickly, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, and watch TV too much.
We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often. We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life, not life to years.
We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, yet still have trouble crossing the street to meet our new neighbor. We’ve conquered outer space, but not inner space. We’ve done larger things, but not better things. We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul; we’ve split the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait; have higher incomes, but lower morals; more food, and less appeasement. We build more computers to hold more information to produce more copies than ever, but have less and less communication. We’ve become long on quantity, but short on quality.
These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion; tall men, and short characters; steep profits, and shallow relationships. These are the times of world peace, but domestic warfare; more leisure, but less fun; more food, and less nutrition. These are the days of two incomes, but more divorce; of fancier houses, but broken homes. Of quick trips, disposable diapers, throw away morality, one-night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer to quiet to kill. It is a time when there is much in the show window and nothing in the stockroom; a time when technology has brought this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to make a difference, or just to hit delete…

- Dr. Bob Moorehead

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"I think you could fall in love with anyone if you saw the parts of them no one else gets to see. Like if you followed them around invisibly for a day and saw them crying in their bed at night or singing in the shower or humming quietly to themselves as they make a sandwich or even just walking along the street. And even if they were really weird and had no friends at school, I think, after seeing them at their most vulnerable, you wouldn’t be able to help falling in love with them."

http://mols.tumblr.com/

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‎"Madness, to an extent, is genius. Be mad, be insane, but know that insanity and madness have absolutely nothing to do with being irrational or illogical. Don’t be stupid. There is no excuse for being stupid. You can be ignorant, but the pursuit of knowledge can fix that. Don’t be stupid. Nothing can fix being stupid. Break boundaries others have not, or are too lazy to. Speaking of which: don’t be lazy. You will understand why I say this, but I hope you don’t find out the hard way. If anything stands in the way of being the best you can possibly be, it is being lazy.

I guess it is better to be ridiculous than to be boring; be ridiculous so that when you speak, people marvel at how articulate you are with your absurd notions. Seek to have them laugh with you, not at you. Do not be an entertainment package; that is not your job. Seek to joke, but be certain that your joke does no harm. Be sure never to harm yourself, or another. Do not pass snide remarks under the impression that girls your age will find it funny (girls your age will find anything funny). Do not be afraid to be kind, and do not be afraid to accept differences. A joke is not a joke if it ends up hurting somebody, it’s not funny if it’s caused harm in any way. Breaking a heart is like murder. Sometimes, people come back more alive. More times than I count though, a person breaks when their heart does. They do not ever properly mend.

Do not idealize people, concepts, ideologies. Don’t idolize. Period. Be light. Let the winds of evidence blow you about as though you are a leaf, with no direction of your own. Seek truth. "

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We're roommates. We're neighbors in the same block. They live down the street. We live three hoods down. In a different district. Across town. We're a city away. You're a hundred miles away. A letter away. An email away. You're at the far end of the country. I'm at the far end of the country. Another country. The end of the continent. They live on different continents. Across the ocean. A phone call away. A thought away. What is distance?

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I am so scared things are about to change. I do not like this or where it seems to be heading. It may stop dead in it’s tracts and become a short chapter that never really existed but no matter what happened from here, I pray that one thing will never change, you and me. Do whatever you want, talk to whoever you want, but don’t forget about the people who love you the most.

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You’re never going to know any of this (do you think that’s poignant or pathetic?) because I can’t stand the thought of you rejecting me. I would prefer to watch you hand in hand with a thousand girls that aren’t me than to hear that we will never be together. I’m going to keep pretending that I don’t like you like that because as long as I am, I can pretend that maybe one day you will like me like that too. Because in this big boring city, sometimes I feel scared and alone, and while I’m pretending I don’t like you like that, I know for certain that you will always be there for me when I need you, and I’m scared that if you knew how I really felt, you wouldn’t be there for me at all.

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Nothing.

When I first met you, you let me know how much you hated it when you asked people “what’s wrong?” when there was clearly something wrong, only to be met with an obstreperous “nothing.” I made a mental note of this, and weeks later when we met, a silent annoyance was festering inside me because of something my Mom said earlier that day, an argument I had with my brother, or I was just feeling moody for the sake of it, and you when asked me what’s wrong, I said exactly what.

At first you enjoyed this disclosure, enjoyed being able to help me with my problems, because these were problems you could grasp. But sometimes, you took on my bad mood, especially when my mood was born of little more than hormones, hunger, or exhaustion. You became fed up with the way my issues became your issues, and began to take any sadness on my part, no matter how rare in occurrence, as a personal slight. You coerced me into fights I didn’t want to have in the moments I was trying to explain my feelings. You told me I was boring and selfish.

The next time after that, you asked me what’s wrong, I answered “nothing,” even when the sky was falling down upon me. I felt like I was no longer entitled to my emotions, from the rawest and the deepest to the most fleeting and frivolous.

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Madness, to an extent, is genius. Be mad, be insane, but know that insanity and madness have absolutely nothing to do with being irrational or illogical. Don’t be stupid. There is no excuse for being stupid. You can be ignorant, but the pursuit of knowledge can fix that. Don’t be stupid. Nothing can fix being stupid. Break boundaries others have not, or are too lazy to. Speaking of which: don’t be lazy. You will understand why I say this, but I hope you don’t find out the hard way. If anything stands in the way of being the best you can possibly be, it is being lazy.

I guess it is better to be ridiculous than to be boring; be ridiculous so that when you speak, people marvel at how articulate you are with your absurd notions. Seek to have them laugh with you, not at you. Do not be an entertainment package; that is not your job. Seek to joke, but be certain that your joke does no harm. Be sure never to harm yourself, or another. Do not pass snide remarks under the impression that girls your age will find it funny (girls your age will find anything funny). Do not be afraid to be kind, and do not be afraid to accept differences. A joke is not a joke if it ends up hurting somebody, it’s not funny if it’s caused harm in any way. Breaking a heart is like murder. Sometimes, people come back more alive. More times than I count though, a person breaks when their heart does. They do not ever properly mend.

Do not idealize people, concepts, ideologies. Don’t idolize. Period. Be light. Let the winds of evidence blow you about as though you are a leaf, with no direction of your own. Seek truth.

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Everybody's Free (To Wear Sunscreen)
by BAZ LUHRMANN


Ladies and Gentlemen of the class of ’99 … Wear Sunscreen.

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience … I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh nevermind; you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded. But trust me, in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked … You’re not as fat as you imagine.

Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind; the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing everyday that scares you.

Sing.

Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts, don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours.

Floss.

Don’t waste your time on jealousy; sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re
behind…the race is long, and in the end, it’s only with yourself. Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults; if you succeed in doing this, tell me how.

Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements.

Stretch.

Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life…the most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year olds know still don’t.

Get plenty of calcium.

Be kind to your knees, you’ll miss them when they’re gone.

Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t, maybe you’ll have children, maybe you won’t, maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary…what ever you do, don’t congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either - your choices are half chance, so are everybody else’s. Enjoy your body, use it every way you can…don’t be afraid of it, or what other people think of it, it’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own..

Dance … even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.

Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them.

Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.

Get to know your parents, you never know when they’ll be gone for good. Be nice to your siblings; they are the best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go,but for the precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography in lifestyle because the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard; live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.

Travel.

Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise, politicians will philander, you too will get old, and when you do you’ll fantasize that when you were young prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders.

Don’t expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one might run out.

Don’t mess too much with your hair, or by the time it’s 40, it will look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and it for more than it’s worth.

But trust me on the sunscreen...

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Just because I'm covered in black and blue doesn't mean I am defeated. I'll lose some battles if it wins me this war. Don't look at me like I'm fragile and easily broken; I'm tougher than most people. You underestimate me and I need neither pity or worry. Dust off my shoulders, I can pick myself up again and again, as many times as it takes for you to get it: I fight my own demons. I'm a tough nut to crack. Take me seriously... Or better yet, take me as I am.

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I can efficiently isolate myself
in a world where
You and your words cannot penetrate.
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